Why do we slow down to see an accident but not a sunset?

sunset and road

What is worth your time? Tragedy or beauty? A car accident or a sunset?

What is it about tragedy? What is it about misfortune? Why can’t we look away. We are drawn to it.

Sometimes seeing someone else succeed makes us feel unhappy. Then when we fail, we also feel unhappy. That’s a lot of unhappiness for one life.

A famous person donates to charity…no one looks. A famous person helps someone overcome a challenge….next. A famous person fails, gets arrested, gets embarrassed, gets sick, you know the drill. Tragedy gets the headlines.

Can you be intentional about what you “slow down” for?

Can you walk past the people arguing and watch the child laughing? When you can pay attention to your attention, you fuel your spirit with positive vibes.

So pay attention. If you can’t help, why stare? Look out for those things that bring you joy. The beautiful sunset, a smile, a laugh, the music, the lights. How many things can you find? What about that air conditioner right above the door of a business? Did you feel that? How about that look in the eye of a person who is really happy to see you? Don’t miss it…slow down.

Here are 3 tips on how to “slow down” for the positive things:

#1. Control what you can

Skip the news. It’s important to know what’s happening in the world, but once you know, look away. Fill your mind with positive things: podcasts, books, blogs, stories. Anything that brings you joy and growth.

#2. Practice looking away

Be conscience of your attention. The moment you catch yourself focusing on something negative, look away. With time you will catch yourself sooner and sooner.

#3. Be grateful

Write down at least one thing you are grateful for every day. At first it will be the big things, but after time it gets more difficult. You will have to be more focused to find the little things. This task will change what you give your attention to because you will constantly be trying to find something to add to the list everyday. Gratitude is key!

“Make way for the positive day” -Bob Marley

What kind of positive things do you “slow down” for? Leave a comment and let me know. If you like this, please share it. Thanks for reading, you’re worth slowing down for!

You Are Kind of My Favorite Person in the World

One of the hardest things about trying to write an influential blog,

is knowing that no one will ever read it…


Welcome to my new blog! My name is Craig Rohlfing. My goal is to help you make the little changes in your everyday life that make the big differences. I focus on personal development and leadership. You, yes you, are one of my favorite people in the world.

I am a student of life, constantly learning and looking for ways to make those around me happier. This blog will help me share with you much of what I have found from the many blogs, books, and podcasts that I enjoy.

This blog is meant to be a dialogue. No one wants to just listen to me. I will read every comment and respond when I can. Please share your feedback. My goal is to serve you. If you like something, let me know and please share it. If you don’t like something, let me know too.

Suggest a topic in the comments. I want to provide only what you want. I am here to serve you and it would be my pleasure to.

I will be posting twice a week.

Some of my favorite brains belong to: Derek Sivers, Charles Duhigg, John C. Maxwell, Seth Godin, Jonathan Levi, Dan Miller, Dave Ramsey, Michael Hyatt, Tim Ferris, Tony Robbins, Patrick Lencioni, Simon Sinek, Gary Vaynerchuk, John Felkins, Lisa Earle McLeod, Stephen MR Covey, Jim Collins, Tom Ziglar, Malcolm Gladwell, Mari Smith, John Lee Dumas, there are so many more though. I will constantly be looking for great content from these thought leaders and many more. I will try to provide you with many of their highlights, but be sure to check out their amazing material yourself as well.

If you made it this far, I can’t thank you enough. I’m looking forward to serving you!

( I will provide a way to share the content, and subscribe as well, in the future)